Doubt, denial, disbelief, emotion, volition....un momentito, I think that's the list for when to use the Subjunctive in Spanish...wait, it's coming to me....
oh yeah...denial, hiding, people-pleasing, rage, control, obsession, anxiety, guilt, shame, humor and more.
I call these things responses, but we can also think of them as defenses, coping mechanims, strategies for survival. We've all got 'em. In many many areas, they work for us. Learning to laugh at crazy situations when we're young makes us pretty popular at work when we crack jokes that break the tension. A controlling disposition or obsessive tendency can make us highly skilled at devising and executing detailed plans.
Nothing wrong with humor, leadership or attention to detail. The question becomes...where do those responses/defenses/survival mechanisms get in our way? Do we crack jokes instead of connecting with our feelings or with other people? Do we make ourselves nutty by attempting to control outcomes of situations beyond our control?
Figuring out where our internal operating systems don't work gives us access to understanding ourselves and our choices in new ways.
So I ask you:
What's working for you?
What's not working?
And what can you do about it?
Nicely framed, Nora.
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